I have a friend, Snow Jade, who chronicles everything in her life. If she takes a package to the post office, it is entirely possible that the postal worker will be featured in her Facebook the next day - or the waiter at the Chinese restaurant or the hula dancers downtown (she lives in Hawaii)...you get the idea.
So without further fanfare, following is my evening last night because pictures are worth 1,000 words.
I left those lovely people about 1 a.m. and returned home to rest on the couch and look at this
Eclectic, quirky, and sometimes edgy…this is how things look from my front porch.
Friday, June 28, 2013
Tuesday, May 28, 2013
My Little Sweetheart is Gone
My sweet little kindergartner next door has been evicted, along with her family. To say that my heart feels like it has been ripped out of my chest is putting it mildly. Somehow I feel the need to say that I did everything I knew how to do to prevent this without enabling harmful behavior. Not only did I do everything I could, but an entire neighborhood tried to help, including the landlord.
What could I do when she knocked on the door with 45 minutes available, but take her for cake pops at a favorite place, watch her wiggle her loose front tooth, and listen to what Miss Kinchlow told them all at school today?
I hope that during the year we had this sweet little girl with us, along with her three other siblings, we were able to pour in all the love we possibly could. I cannot explain the desolation which swept through me to hear her say matter-of-factly, "I guess we are going to a shelter tonight." No child should ever have to say that, never mind experience it. What do you do but hold her close and remind her that you will pray for her every day? You remind her how amazing she is and that God has a special plan for her.
How do I walk in the love that Christ wants us to having for a hurting world when I want to strangle the adults in her life for putting her in this position? What would Jesus do? The shortest verse in the Bible says, "Jesus wept" when he learned that his friend Lazarus had died. So I guess Jesus will understand that I sit here crying and second-guessing myself, but most of all praying that He will suffer these little children to come unto Him and find a place for them and healing for their mother.
When I came inside just now they were running barefoot in the grass between our two houses,catching lightning bugs, and waiting for a ride to God-knows-where. I pray that they will stay carefree and untouched by this adult chaos. My heart is broken.
What could I do when she knocked on the door with 45 minutes available, but take her for cake pops at a favorite place, watch her wiggle her loose front tooth, and listen to what Miss Kinchlow told them all at school today?
I hope that during the year we had this sweet little girl with us, along with her three other siblings, we were able to pour in all the love we possibly could. I cannot explain the desolation which swept through me to hear her say matter-of-factly, "I guess we are going to a shelter tonight." No child should ever have to say that, never mind experience it. What do you do but hold her close and remind her that you will pray for her every day? You remind her how amazing she is and that God has a special plan for her.
How do I walk in the love that Christ wants us to having for a hurting world when I want to strangle the adults in her life for putting her in this position? What would Jesus do? The shortest verse in the Bible says, "Jesus wept" when he learned that his friend Lazarus had died. So I guess Jesus will understand that I sit here crying and second-guessing myself, but most of all praying that He will suffer these little children to come unto Him and find a place for them and healing for their mother.
When I came inside just now they were running barefoot in the grass between our two houses,catching lightning bugs, and waiting for a ride to God-knows-where. I pray that they will stay carefree and untouched by this adult chaos. My heart is broken.
Friday, May 17, 2013
Walks
I've taken some amazing walks lately. While traveling through North Carolina, I stopped to walk the dog in a little park in Zebulon, NC. The woods were cool and green - all you could smell was springtime.
The little play house below was along my walk in the Ghent section of Norfolk, in the backyard of a stately house. Some treasured little girl must play there.
The little play house below was along my walk in the Ghent section of Norfolk, in the backyard of a stately house. Some treasured little girl must play there.
Tuesday, May 14, 2013
Despicable Me
To say that my husband has an unusual job is putting it mildly. Sometimes he sends me pics or quips during his work day. I sometimes wonder if he's kidding around or being serious. I got a pic via a smart phone which was entitled, "Despicable Me" yesterday.
When I first saw the title of the message, I wasn't sure whether he was trying to tell me that he forgot to take the garbage out to the street, he was having one of those days (as we all do) when he was REALLY doubting his self image, or he was thinking of the movie of the same name.
As it happens, it was none of the above. Who knew that there was a Despicable Me blimp promoting the next Despicable Me movie (Despicable Me 2) and that it needed a little TLC? That's what the company he works for does and so, here it is in the hanger. You can get a good idea of the scale by checking out the white pick up underneath. It is one of those big pick ups with a "back seat" before the truck bed.
I should add that the company he works for does a lot of things other than fixing "ole Despicable" including military and communication applications. Bruce works on that side of the house.
Sometimes it is embarrassing to admit that your husband plays with balloons for a living. - and he he isn't even a clown!
When I first saw the title of the message, I wasn't sure whether he was trying to tell me that he forgot to take the garbage out to the street, he was having one of those days (as we all do) when he was REALLY doubting his self image, or he was thinking of the movie of the same name.
As it happens, it was none of the above. Who knew that there was a Despicable Me blimp promoting the next Despicable Me movie (Despicable Me 2) and that it needed a little TLC? That's what the company he works for does and so, here it is in the hanger. You can get a good idea of the scale by checking out the white pick up underneath. It is one of those big pick ups with a "back seat" before the truck bed.
I should add that the company he works for does a lot of things other than fixing "ole Despicable" including military and communication applications. Bruce works on that side of the house.
Sometimes it is embarrassing to admit that your husband plays with balloons for a living. - and he he isn't even a clown!
Tuesday, April 16, 2013
A Heart Drawn on the Window
There
are a million reasons why children have less-than-perfect childhoods. Some of those reasons stretch back
generations and others are due to selfish choices made by grown ups today. I’m not
called to judge those issues or reasons, but I frequently find it painful and
sad to view the effect on the kids.
Sometimes
those situations tear my heart out. I
was engaged in a discussion on the front porch of a house that shelters four
children aged 2 to 11. The adults in
their lives are broken, as I am, fragmented both by choices they have made and
situations beyond their control. The
discussion was stressful.
The three smaller ones were sent in to watch Tom and Jerry. Mom was seated facing the big living room
window, as I was, while another child had her back to it.
A
little face with huge green eyes appeared as the six year old wiggled her body
under the curtain at the living room window.
The weather was warm and the window had fogged from the air conditioning
inside. Very carefully and very seriously
she drew a huge heart in the condensation, looked solemnly out at her mother
and pointed an index finger toward her.
If
only we could do that. If only we could
try to pour love over the stress and the chaos, as she tried to do. Right now, all I think that my little sweetheart should have to worry about is going down the slide.
“And
a little child shall lead them.” Isaiah
11:6
Jesus said, "Let the little children
come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such
as these." Mathew 19:14
Tuesday, April 9, 2013
Dolphins – God’s Most Intriguing Creatures
Years
ago, I took one of those quizzes in a woman’s magazine. This quiz had the
reader consider choices if one only had
six months to live. I mentioned to my
man that I would want to swim with the dolphins. His response was, “Why wait until you know
you’re going to die?”
I must have gotten Flipper on the brain from grade school when Flipper was a favorite in the Galvin household. Flipper Intro
This
is how I found myself a few months later at Dolphins Plus in Key Largo learning
about dolphin behavior prior to diving into the lagoon with the dolphins. http://www.dolphinsplus.com/
Dolphins
at this location are not captive. They stay there because they choose to. They
are free to leave at any time. Dolphins
which perform in amusement parks are not given food until they complete the
required task. They no doubt find both
this and unprotected behavior from humans highly stressful, because they die
much younger under most captive situations than they do in the wild. Dolphins at Dolphin’s Plus have a longer life
expectancy because they are fed regardless of behavior. Any humans who attend
programs there are educated about dolphin behavior and removed from the lagoon
if they do not comply.
Dolphins
travel using echo location which is accomplished via the rostrum (the bulbous
part) of their heads. Essentially, they
are living, breathing ultrasound machines.
As such, they can “see” inside human beings. The behaviorists who work at Dolphins Plus
told us that in recent weeks the dolphins had eyed the mid-section of a woman
repeatedly. She called them a month
later to advise that she had been in the early stages of pregnancy at the time
and did not know it. They also paid close attention to a gentleman who had a
knee replacement.
After
the orientation, I sat on the small dock and considered that while Flipper was
really cool, what was directly in front of me was a group of wild animals weighing around 800 lbs each. I got nervous and was trying to talk myself into jumping in. Bruce, who is usually
patient and kind, also knew we had only a short amount of time to be in the
lagoon and unceremoniously pushed me in.
Don’t worry, I’m a good swimmer. I was just being Wilma Wimp Girl.
Once
in, I had to orient myself to the strange humming and almost electrical buzzing
underwater, which is the sound of the dolphins communicating with each
other. We had been told that they like
to amuse themselves from time to time by “freaking out the human.” Sensing my nervousness, they had some fun
with me.
They
swim up to you at full speed, stop very suddenly directly in front of you, in a
vertical position, and open their mouths, showing all their teeth. This is not biting behavior, mind you, but
simply trying to get a rise out of you.
They’re playful. After they did
this to me, there was plenty of dolphin “talk”…”Hey Mildred wasn’t that
hilarious when she swallowed lagoon water down her snorkel?”- you know, typical
dolphin high jinks.
The
whole experience was one of those things one remembers for a lifetime. I was honored that one of the dolphins
allowed me to touch her. Dolphins feel like a hard-boiled egg with the shell
removed, wet. Made me think of nothing
more than making a bunch of deviled eggs for a bbq.
This
all brings me to today’s post and video. A professional photographer and diver, Keller Laoros, who routinely dives with manta rays and takes pictures recently had an amazing experience
in Hawaii. A dolphin fouled in fishing
wire approached him. It was
clear that the dolphin was in distress.
He stopped a short distance from Keller. Keller made a “come here” gesture under
water and the dolphin did so. Keller used a diving knife to remove some of the fishing line. The dolphin surfaced for air and returned to
allow him to continue removing the fishing line. When the man was done, the dolphin swam
away. A wild animal.
Animals
are filled with the grace of God, in my humble opinion. I know that every day when Lulu snuggles with
me in bed. I knew that over the weekend when
a pygmy goat sat in my lap out in the sunshiny backyard. The Bible says that all creation gives God
praise.
Let heaven and earth
praise him,
the seas and all that move in them, Psalm 69:34
the seas and all that move in them, Psalm 69:34
In the memorable words
of radio Bible teacher Chuck Swindoll, “Anyone who believes that they are
correct theologically by stating that there will be no animals in Heaven are
going to have a surprise when they see that big white horse Jesus rides up
in.” Just sayin’.
Monday, April 8, 2013
Iron Lady 1925 - 2013
She was nicknamed Iron Lady by the Soviets. I believe that her guts, grit, and determination were among the many reasons the Berlin Wall fell, not the least of which was the service of submariners like my man. She served the longest of any post-war British Prime Minister. Daughter of a grocer, world changer, Lady Thatcher. GIRL POWER!
Friday, April 5, 2013
This and That Post
It seems that maybe spring has finally shown itself in Portsmouth. I took these pics with my cell phone camera during a walk the other night.
I've mostly been walking inside the extremely huge Portsmouth Naval Hospital. This was the first evening that it has been comfortably warm enough this season to walk outside in beautiful Olde Towne in the early evening.
I tore into a new book by Ken and Joni Eareckson Tada. You may know Joni as the quadriplegic evangelist, author, radio broadcaster, and painter (by mouth). She's written many inspirational books that I've enjoyed over the years. Learn more about Loni at www.joniandfriends.org.
Joni and Ken is a hard look at marriage in the midst of suffering. Not only is Joni paralyzed, but she also battles chronic pain and recently has had Stage 3 breast cancer. This book is an honest, not sticky sweet look at how she and her husband of 30 years have coped with the challenges that disability and cancer have brought to their relationship. I couldn't put it down and highly recommend it.
http://www.amazon.com/Joni-Ken-Untold-Love-Story/dp/0310314690/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1365199407&sr=8-1&keywords=joni+and+ken+an+untold+love+story
I've mostly been walking inside the extremely huge Portsmouth Naval Hospital. This was the first evening that it has been comfortably warm enough this season to walk outside in beautiful Olde Towne in the early evening.
I tore into a new book by Ken and Joni Eareckson Tada. You may know Joni as the quadriplegic evangelist, author, radio broadcaster, and painter (by mouth). She's written many inspirational books that I've enjoyed over the years. Learn more about Loni at www.joniandfriends.org.
Joni and Ken is a hard look at marriage in the midst of suffering. Not only is Joni paralyzed, but she also battles chronic pain and recently has had Stage 3 breast cancer. This book is an honest, not sticky sweet look at how she and her husband of 30 years have coped with the challenges that disability and cancer have brought to their relationship. I couldn't put it down and highly recommend it.
http://www.amazon.com/Joni-Ken-Untold-Love-Story/dp/0310314690/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1365199407&sr=8-1&keywords=joni+and+ken+an+untold+love+story
Tuesday, April 2, 2013
My New Rock Band -Lulu and the Goat Boys
Let me introduce you to Gizmo, one of the pygmy goats in the backyard. He's devilish in a cute sort of way with his little horns and markings over his eyes. I luvs me some Gizzie goat.
This is Blanco. He is much bigger, but I love him, too.
Blanco sort of looks like a lamb in this shot because someone at some point removed his horns I don't get that, just like I don't get cropping dog's ears. I think it is baaa aaaa aaaaad, to quote a goat.
So why are they there? Just my little protest on government tyranny.
My neighbors, John and Aimee, across the street, belong to Gizzie and Blanco. Both goats are neutered males and the size of dogs. However, some zealous city employees judged them as "livestock" and cited their owners. Actually, they are beloved pets.
Goats are great lawn mowers. So they are on the uhhhh lam, so to speak, in my back yard with the six foot high privacy fence until the heat is off their owners. My dog, Lulu, has totally taken it in her stride.
Really, we have murderers and folks selling drugs to high school kids, I think we have more important things to spend time on than hassling miniature goats.
We're going to the next City Council meeting...repeat with me, "Save the Pygmy Goats, Save the Pygmy Goats!"
This is Blanco. He is much bigger, but I love him, too.
Blanco sort of looks like a lamb in this shot because someone at some point removed his horns I don't get that, just like I don't get cropping dog's ears. I think it is baaa aaaa aaaaad, to quote a goat.
So why are they there? Just my little protest on government tyranny.
My neighbors, John and Aimee, across the street, belong to Gizzie and Blanco. Both goats are neutered males and the size of dogs. However, some zealous city employees judged them as "livestock" and cited their owners. Actually, they are beloved pets.
Goats are great lawn mowers. So they are on the uhhhh lam, so to speak, in my back yard with the six foot high privacy fence until the heat is off their owners. My dog, Lulu, has totally taken it in her stride.
Really, we have murderers and folks selling drugs to high school kids, I think we have more important things to spend time on than hassling miniature goats.
We're going to the next City Council meeting...repeat with me, "Save the Pygmy Goats, Save the Pygmy Goats!"
Monday, April 1, 2013
Cesar Chavez' 86th Birthday - Are You Kidding Me, Google?
I admire Cesar Chavez as much as the next person. I sympathize with the plight of migrant workers. A San Diego Red Cross program I was affiliated with for 5 years served migrant workers. Such workers are exploited by farming operations both large and small which make a great deal of money from their efforts.
While living in San Diego, I often considered the cruelty of circumstances which gave me, born on one side, such advantages over folks born a quarter of a mile to the south. Their education, immunization status, medical care, and life expectancy are all much poorer than we enjoy in the United States. I understand why women in labor cross the border illegally so that their children will have a better life. I don't approve, but I understand.
My late sister-in-law met Bruce's brother, Eric, when she was a migrant worker on the family farm. I know her life was very hard before she met him. Margaret was gorgeous. Our niece, Heather, inherited her mother's stunning looks. As an ardent watcher of The Big Valley, I always thought it interesting that she named her son "Heath," the name of the character played by Lee Majors. Heath was the youngest son of the land owner, Victoria Barkley, just as Eric was my mother-in-law's youngest.
I'm always fascinated with the clever things Google does to recognize special dates on their opening page. They make the Google logo move or light up or create a graphic in the style of Monet or Picasso to recognize an artist's birthday. However, sometimes their political correctness is so extreme that they appear moronic. Easter was one of those days.
Yesterday, Google recognized the birth date of Cesar Chavez, union organizer, and champion of the rights of migrants. That's fine, Cesar was in important figure in US labor relations. However, Google failed to recognize the date as Easter, when Christians throughout the world celebrate the resurrection of the Lord Jesus Christ. Not only is it short-sighted and, quite frankly, demented - it just makes Google look dumb.
Whomever you believe Jesus was and is, there can be no denial of his influence over the course of human history. In fact, we divide time based on the birth of Jesus Christ, despite this BCE (Before the Common Era) nonsense. AD, as in 2013 AD, is an abbreviation of the Latin phrase meaning, "Year of our Lord."
I find it fascinating that tolerance is extended in our present day world to everyone BUT Christians. We are tolerant of Muslims, Hindus, Buddhists, gays, and lesbians - as well we should be.
However, in the name of tolerance and political correctness, we Christians are not allowed now to use the term "Easter eggs" or "Christmas tree" at school. This semantic nonsense is just absurd, especially considering that Easter eggs and Christmas trees actually have nothing to do with either holiday. Religious tolerance should be for everyone, even the Christian majority in this country.
I wonder sometimes if Jesus is looking down saying, "Yeah, Google, not so much..." Kinda like when I go to small group and we put a DVD on the TV to sing praise songs to the television set.
While living in San Diego, I often considered the cruelty of circumstances which gave me, born on one side, such advantages over folks born a quarter of a mile to the south. Their education, immunization status, medical care, and life expectancy are all much poorer than we enjoy in the United States. I understand why women in labor cross the border illegally so that their children will have a better life. I don't approve, but I understand.
My late sister-in-law met Bruce's brother, Eric, when she was a migrant worker on the family farm. I know her life was very hard before she met him. Margaret was gorgeous. Our niece, Heather, inherited her mother's stunning looks. As an ardent watcher of The Big Valley, I always thought it interesting that she named her son "Heath," the name of the character played by Lee Majors. Heath was the youngest son of the land owner, Victoria Barkley, just as Eric was my mother-in-law's youngest.
I'm always fascinated with the clever things Google does to recognize special dates on their opening page. They make the Google logo move or light up or create a graphic in the style of Monet or Picasso to recognize an artist's birthday. However, sometimes their political correctness is so extreme that they appear moronic. Easter was one of those days.
Yesterday, Google recognized the birth date of Cesar Chavez, union organizer, and champion of the rights of migrants. That's fine, Cesar was in important figure in US labor relations. However, Google failed to recognize the date as Easter, when Christians throughout the world celebrate the resurrection of the Lord Jesus Christ. Not only is it short-sighted and, quite frankly, demented - it just makes Google look dumb.
Whomever you believe Jesus was and is, there can be no denial of his influence over the course of human history. In fact, we divide time based on the birth of Jesus Christ, despite this BCE (Before the Common Era) nonsense. AD, as in 2013 AD, is an abbreviation of the Latin phrase meaning, "Year of our Lord."
I find it fascinating that tolerance is extended in our present day world to everyone BUT Christians. We are tolerant of Muslims, Hindus, Buddhists, gays, and lesbians - as well we should be.
However, in the name of tolerance and political correctness, we Christians are not allowed now to use the term "Easter eggs" or "Christmas tree" at school. This semantic nonsense is just absurd, especially considering that Easter eggs and Christmas trees actually have nothing to do with either holiday. Religious tolerance should be for everyone, even the Christian majority in this country.
I wonder sometimes if Jesus is looking down saying, "Yeah, Google, not so much..." Kinda like when I go to small group and we put a DVD on the TV to sing praise songs to the television set.
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Sunday, March 31, 2013
I had a doll house like this once long ago when I went to St Mary Star of the Sea School and lived in the ranch house next door to Major Hart and across the court from Colonel Frank.
My father used to say that Jane Hart talked breathing in and breathing out. It was true. She wasn't a large woman, but a chair once broke underneath her and she was still telling a story when she picked herself up. I can still hear her calling her son into dinner, my little friend Chipper, in her honeyed Deep South voice, "Chippa, Chippa Hart!" My doll house was made of metal, just like this one and was populated with a little family.
It came the same Christmas that Santa also brought me an easel with a green chalk board on one side, a place to clip white paper on the other, a chalk trough, and a covered area which held paint jars. I had a sailor suit with a swirly skirt and purple curtains in my room. My mother made those curtains; they had silhouettes of black cats on them.
That's when Rose came to help us and made butter-flavored hard candy on a cookie sheet. When the candy cooled, she would smash it into bits with a hammer and store it in a cookie tin. Rose liked to watch her stories and would sometimes assemble puzzles with us. She was also known to occasionally say, "Don't be back-sassing. Rose." I'll let you guess whether she said that to me or my brother, Reid.
Major Heatherly kept his boat in our backyard while he was in Vietnam with Dad Reid and I took many voyages in the grass on that boat, with Space Food sticks and Hi-C for sustenance. We would catch lightening bugs in mayonnaise jars and watch Flipper when we came inside.
I saw this doll house in an antique mall near Richmond, up on top of a tall bookcase. The sight of it brought back every one of these memories. Now it is at home with a much older Annie who still back sasses from time to time.
My father used to say that Jane Hart talked breathing in and breathing out. It was true. She wasn't a large woman, but a chair once broke underneath her and she was still telling a story when she picked herself up. I can still hear her calling her son into dinner, my little friend Chipper, in her honeyed Deep South voice, "Chippa, Chippa Hart!" My doll house was made of metal, just like this one and was populated with a little family.
It came the same Christmas that Santa also brought me an easel with a green chalk board on one side, a place to clip white paper on the other, a chalk trough, and a covered area which held paint jars. I had a sailor suit with a swirly skirt and purple curtains in my room. My mother made those curtains; they had silhouettes of black cats on them.
That's when Rose came to help us and made butter-flavored hard candy on a cookie sheet. When the candy cooled, she would smash it into bits with a hammer and store it in a cookie tin. Rose liked to watch her stories and would sometimes assemble puzzles with us. She was also known to occasionally say, "Don't be back-sassing. Rose." I'll let you guess whether she said that to me or my brother, Reid.
Major Heatherly kept his boat in our backyard while he was in Vietnam with Dad Reid and I took many voyages in the grass on that boat, with Space Food sticks and Hi-C for sustenance. We would catch lightening bugs in mayonnaise jars and watch Flipper when we came inside.
I saw this doll house in an antique mall near Richmond, up on top of a tall bookcase. The sight of it brought back every one of these memories. Now it is at home with a much older Annie who still back sasses from time to time.
Saturday, March 30, 2013
Sunday, January 6, 2013
Horrible Day
Yuck. Thursday was a horrible day. As
usual, I found two typos in my blog post after it was up. Hate that.
I proofread it three times.
I got in to trouble at work
yesterday. Now, everything turned out
just fine. I am not in trouble now. However, it just gives me the shivers for
anyone at work to think that I’ve done something wrong. In fact, I don’t want anyone anywhere to
think I’ve done something wrong.
I try very hard to do the right
thing. However, there are many gray
areas in the division I work in.
Actually, there are many gray areas in law enforcement in general. That’s where what is called “police
discretion” come in. Every single
possible scenario cannot be covered in an SOP, so one must use educated
judgment.
There are 39 other people in the state
who do my job. All of us work with a law
enforcement officer who is more seasoned than we newbies. Not everyone in my organization supported the
idea from “on high” that created our unique positions. Change is difficult in any big
organization. Heck, change is difficult
for individuals, never mind hundreds of individuals at once.
My more senior colleague and I had not
communicated effectively about an issue.
It was nothing deliberate on anyone’s part and certainly not that we
were being slackers or trying to do the wrong thing. However, when I got the speaker phone call
from my direct supervisor and the officer, I was filled with dread. I literally got sick to my stomach. I fretted, worried, castigated myself, second
guessed how I handled it, fumed…basically put myself through the wringer.
I’m so Godly, right? Not.
The Godly thing would have been to leave it in His capable hands. As the Word says, “and having done all, stand.”
Nope, I had two glasses of wine while out to dinner, my hands shook all night,
and I didn’t sleep. Jeepers. Not that I think having a glass of wine is a
bad thing, but drinking to calm down from being upset is not a good idea.
Where and when did I decide to leave out
that part of the Word which promises, “There is now therefore no condemnation
for those who are in Christ Jesus?” Why
is it that I think God’s promises apply to everyone except for me? God knows the cure for every situation, which
we can discover in His Word...except for poor, pitiful Annie. She’s in trouble at work and she’s gonna get
it!
After sleeping about an hour during the
entire night, I got up and went to work.
My more senior co-worker called my cell phone and my stomach
lurched. I let it go to voice mail to
give myself time to think briefly. I was
really angry that he had gone over my head to my supervisor before he ever
talked to me. I thought of being cold
and distant for a second, you know, to punish him. Of course that would make any interaction SO
MUCH BETTER…not!
Golden rule, baby. Treat him as you would want to be
treated. Love justice, seek mercy, and walk
humbly with your God. I forced my voice
to be cordial when I called back. He had
several items for me to take care of. I took all the information down. I took a deep breath and apologized to him
for the trouble yesterday. You can always say that you’re sorry for a
misunderstanding or a stressful situation.
Do you know what? I’m not in any trouble. He told me that I
didn’t need to apologize and that he was sorry, too. We reviewed what happened. We brainstormed strategies for better
communication. We realized that there
were two issues that were a bit confusing for both of us, so we agreed to get
clarification from our mutual supervisor.
We both hung up feeling like we could work together better
What would have happened if I threw a
fit? What would have happened if kept my
voice cold – men hate that! Would I have
had a good outcome if I went to complain to my supervisor? I don’t think I would have had such a
positive result, do you?
Maybe I don’t immediately handle this
kind of thing well, but thank God I was able to hear Him by the next day. Thank God I listened to that still, small
voice telling me what to do this morning.
Thank God I listened and I obeyed.
Wednesday, January 2, 2013
I swore I would never do it again, but I did. I let go of updating the blog for what seemed
like one day and now it has been three months.
Where to begin? Bruce started a wonderful new job just over
the border in northern North Carolina.
He loves what he does and they love him.
If you told me a few months back that he would be working putting spy
and communication equipment on aerostats, I would have said you were crazy.
Okay – what (you are asking) is an aerostat? I’m glad you asked. A dirigible is a lighter
than aircraft. An aerostat is a kind of dirigible
which doesn’t fly around like the Good Year Blimp does. Instead, aerostats are
tethered to the ground to stay in place to hoist something aloft and keep it
there. A blimp has just an outer shell and is filled with helium.
The Hindenburg, of “oh the humanity” fame, is not a blimp,
but actually a rigid airship. If you recall
the famous picture where the Hindenburg falls to earth in Lakehurst New Jersey, you can see the
frame as the outer shell and the helium burns.
The Goodyear Blimp doesn’t have that shell. There will be a test on this later.
After applying for so many jobs, this one came to him via a headhunter. He never applied for it. As a submariner, I’m sure that he never
thought he’d be qualified for such a thing.
God has such a sense of humor.
There were 5 possible offers on the table. Four of them involved the military contracting
world. Then the aerostat company came in
out of left field. I discounted it, but
told God that I was open to whatever he had for us. This was it.
I continue to love my job in the Sex Offender Investigative
Unit of the state police agency which doesn’t like us to mention it directly in
social media. Valor, Service, Pride…that’s
all I’ll say, you can figure it out!
People are often surprised that I find my job so
rewarding. They cite the kind of folks
they imagine that I work around and the danger involved. While I suppose there is some danger, the
folks would surprise you. Most of them
are pretty much like you and I are. They
are also sinners, many of whom are now reformed and redeemed.
What I didnt realize was that sex offenders are the lepers
of modern society. They are never
forgiven by others and wear a stigma which makes their lives difficult
forever. And I do mean forever. Offenses vary from the very minor to terribly
heinous, but all of the offenders appear on the same Internet list with their
picture, home, and work addresses disclosed. Not only are they stigmatized, but
their entire families often are, too.
I received a touching Christmas card from one of them; “Thank
you, Officer Bremer, for treating me like a human being.” The job is not what I thought it would be and
affords me many, many opportunities for ministry.
During this transition to a new year, I’ve spent some time
in thought and prayer to figure out what I need to work on in 2013. Opportunity
to seize more of what God has for me stretches before me. While there is room
for much improvement, I have narrowed my focus down to a few areas of
concentration which center around mindfulness and avoiding rushing. I’ve come to realize that nothing, absolutely
nothing, is accomplished when I rush.
I am also choosing to stay focused on people when I am with
them. I want to be engaged with and on people, whether loved ones, neighbor children or the public I serve. Often, I am trying to multi-task or rushing
through what folks are telling to get on to the next thing.
I realized in December that I was
doing that to a child. I stopped
myself. That day after Sandy Hook, I
realized that she was only there in front of me, eyes expectantly locked on
mine, a beautiful 6 year old, for that moment.
She was more important than my cell phone, the garbage that needed to be
emptied, and the hundred things that press me in at the holidays.
This year I will slow down.
I will fully engage with everything around me. I will see the beauty in
the small things. That’s my choice.
Wednesday, October 3, 2012
Knee Mail
This sign was food for thought while taking a walk Sunday.
The name of this church, Monumental Methodist, cracks me up. The church is over 200 years old, so the naming of the church is back deep in history. Every time I see it, though, I hear Ed Sullivan's voice saying, "It's a reaallly reaallly big, HUGE, giant, MONUMENTAL church. Actually, this old church is a normal size. My guess is that the church's name has something to do with a monument, although there is no monument there now.
Maybe if we spent more time sending knee mail instead of email, we'd have more productive lives. I know I would!
The name of this church, Monumental Methodist, cracks me up. The church is over 200 years old, so the naming of the church is back deep in history. Every time I see it, though, I hear Ed Sullivan's voice saying, "It's a reaallly reaallly big, HUGE, giant, MONUMENTAL church. Actually, this old church is a normal size. My guess is that the church's name has something to do with a monument, although there is no monument there now.
Maybe if we spent more time sending knee mail instead of email, we'd have more productive lives. I know I would!
Sunday, September 30, 2012
Red Barns
I was wondering about my obsession with red barns this morning when the Rolodex in my brain flipped the cards back to my Grandfather Dunn reading a pop-up book to me about a farm. I recall being amused that the book was a "pop up" book and I called this grandfather "Pop."
Each page had a tabs on the side that you pulled, causing the chickens to lay eggs or the horse's tail to move. The center pages popped up a red barn in the middle. That was back when I was learning to read and the letter "J" looked like a soup ladle to me.
My mother and my Pop, her father, were teachers. They both read to all of us often; wonderful books like Hide N Seek Fog and the Lonely Doll series. Christmas and birthdays always involved stacks of books like Little Women, Island of the Blue Dolphins, A Tree Grows in Brooklyn, and other edifying books.
I would sit in a blue patterned wing chair in the living room for hours transported to New York City at the turn of the century or Massachusetts during the Civil War. I am so glad that my niece, Piper, carries on this tradition...despite Facebook and other electronic enticements.
So Saturday was a red barn kind of day. I find that weathered silo very beautiful.
If I could have staged this pic below, I would have added a pair of worn cowboy boots.
Each page had a tabs on the side that you pulled, causing the chickens to lay eggs or the horse's tail to move. The center pages popped up a red barn in the middle. That was back when I was learning to read and the letter "J" looked like a soup ladle to me.
My mother and my Pop, her father, were teachers. They both read to all of us often; wonderful books like Hide N Seek Fog and the Lonely Doll series. Christmas and birthdays always involved stacks of books like Little Women, Island of the Blue Dolphins, A Tree Grows in Brooklyn, and other edifying books.
I would sit in a blue patterned wing chair in the living room for hours transported to New York City at the turn of the century or Massachusetts during the Civil War. I am so glad that my niece, Piper, carries on this tradition...despite Facebook and other electronic enticements.
So Saturday was a red barn kind of day. I find that weathered silo very beautiful.
Saturday, September 29, 2012
National Coffee Day
Today is National Coffee Day. Do you ever wonder who makes up "days?" I get Columbus Day. Mother's Day,. Father's Day, etc. Such days came about by tradition. However, some of these "days" I kinda wonder about. "Thank a Police Officer Day"....clearly I have no problem with that, but we also have "Wear A Skirt Day"...also okay, but what for?
I found this list of National "Days" as follows:
Real List of National Days
January 10 is Peculiar People Day...finally, a holiday just for me.
So about O'Doodle Doo's....This is an incredibly cool little doughnut cafe out in the "toolies" as we say in my family, in the country area of Suffolk. The building has been a used car lot, an ice cream shop, and several other incarnations.
I adore the big billboard-type sign along the side of the road. I've noticed it for about a year. I keep telling myself that I'm going to go, but I never get around to it. Today, I got around to it.
Love at their posted hours, "5 a.m. til 2'ish or until the doughnuts sell out." Love that. I would, however, like to change "everyday" to every day.
So today, to celebrate National Coffee Day, I finally went to O'Doodle Doo's. I became a cliche of a law enforcement officer as I got a light sweet coffee to go and two doughnuts. I had a pumpkin velvet and a banana nut. Bruce had a pumpkin velvet and a "vanilla eyeball." In where the doughnut hole should have been, there was a bloodshot eyeball in honor of the ghoulish season. We sat under an awning at a picnic table, sat companionably sipping coffee and hot chocolate over "ooooh this is so GOOD." We gazed at this across the street.
Bruce told me this joke. A trooper pulled over a man and said, shining a flashlight in his eyes, "Sir, your eyes are bloodshot, have you been drinking?" The man peered at the trooper and said, "Your eyes look glazed, Officer, have you been eating doughnuts?" Why, yes, I have been.
It might be raining this morning,but life is good.
Learn more about this cool-lio place here:
O'Doodle Doo's
I found this list of National "Days" as follows:
Real List of National Days
January 10 is Peculiar People Day...finally, a holiday just for me.
So about O'Doodle Doo's....This is an incredibly cool little doughnut cafe out in the "toolies" as we say in my family, in the country area of Suffolk. The building has been a used car lot, an ice cream shop, and several other incarnations.
I adore the big billboard-type sign along the side of the road. I've noticed it for about a year. I keep telling myself that I'm going to go, but I never get around to it. Today, I got around to it.
Love at their posted hours, "5 a.m. til 2'ish or until the doughnuts sell out." Love that. I would, however, like to change "everyday" to every day.
So today, to celebrate National Coffee Day, I finally went to O'Doodle Doo's. I became a cliche of a law enforcement officer as I got a light sweet coffee to go and two doughnuts. I had a pumpkin velvet and a banana nut. Bruce had a pumpkin velvet and a "vanilla eyeball." In where the doughnut hole should have been, there was a bloodshot eyeball in honor of the ghoulish season. We sat under an awning at a picnic table, sat companionably sipping coffee and hot chocolate over "ooooh this is so GOOD." We gazed at this across the street.
Bruce told me this joke. A trooper pulled over a man and said, shining a flashlight in his eyes, "Sir, your eyes are bloodshot, have you been drinking?" The man peered at the trooper and said, "Your eyes look glazed, Officer, have you been eating doughnuts?" Why, yes, I have been.
It might be raining this morning,but life is good.
Learn more about this cool-lio place here:
O'Doodle Doo's
Thursday, September 27, 2012
It's The Most Wonderful Time of the Year
And speaking of Andy Williams, I can just hear him singing that song. No, I am not confused on the date at all. For me, Autumn is the most wonderful; time of the year. I do not blossom in extremely hot weather. In fact, high temps often make me feel unwell and cranky.
Pumpkin spice lattes are a seasonal item which disappear after New Year's. The moment they arrive at Starbucks marks the beginning of Fall for me, despite the temp or the calendar. Shortly afterwards, the evenings become a little cool...just that bare hint of Fall. The days are pleasant and this period of time is my most wonderful time of the year.
Virginia is still a major agricultural area when you get out of the suburbs. We are blessed with farm stands all around which do Autumn in a big way.
I adore church pews. This high-backed pew is particularly charming.
I couldn't find the name of this country store out 12 miles from my house in the country. It was closed for the day, so I couldn't ask. Yes, I did trespass and take pictures.
Enjoy every moment of this season with its wildly exuberant colors, the crunch of the leaves under foot, the sounds of the geese honking as they fly in formation, the taste of pumpkin bread, and the slimey feel of the seeds you pull out when you carve a Jack-o-Lantern. Savor it all, because it will be over before you know it.
Pumpkin spice lattes are a seasonal item which disappear after New Year's. The moment they arrive at Starbucks marks the beginning of Fall for me, despite the temp or the calendar. Shortly afterwards, the evenings become a little cool...just that bare hint of Fall. The days are pleasant and this period of time is my most wonderful time of the year.
Virginia is still a major agricultural area when you get out of the suburbs. We are blessed with farm stands all around which do Autumn in a big way.
I adore church pews. This high-backed pew is particularly charming.
I couldn't find the name of this country store out 12 miles from my house in the country. It was closed for the day, so I couldn't ask. Yes, I did trespass and take pictures.
Enjoy every moment of this season with its wildly exuberant colors, the crunch of the leaves under foot, the sounds of the geese honking as they fly in formation, the taste of pumpkin bread, and the slimey feel of the seeds you pull out when you carve a Jack-o-Lantern. Savor it all, because it will be over before you know it.
Wednesday, September 26, 2012
Tuesday, September 25, 2012
Salt and Light
Have you ever persistently forgot about one pesky item at the grocery store? Like for two weeks? For some reason, I kept forgetting the salt. Finally, I remembered to pick some up, got on line at Farm Fresh, and realized that my wallet was in the other car. You'll be happy to know that I took care of the salt yesterday.
Maybe I kept forgetting the salt because I don't purchase it often. Salt is ubiquitous...on top of most tables at home, in the restaurant booth, and in little packets at the bottom of the McDonald's bag. When do we ever think too much about it? Shake, shake...salt is always sitting on top of my stove.
This morning, I was pouring salt into my special vintage shaker when I thought about how precious salt was in the ancient world. Salt was not only a flavor enhancer in those days, but was also an important preservative. Back then, salt was a costly and essential commodity. You can bet your last garbanzo bean that Ali who ran the pottage stand wasn't throwing a bunch of salt in the bottom of the burlap bag of falafal he gave to every Esau, Moishe, or Aaron.
In the interim between running out of salt and remembering to buy it, my food was a little bland. I used some bouillon powder, which is salty, but it wasn't quite the same. I was rationing what I had left and the food suffered from it.
Jesus called us to be salt and light in the Sermon on the Mount as follows:
Maybe I kept forgetting the salt because I don't purchase it often. Salt is ubiquitous...on top of most tables at home, in the restaurant booth, and in little packets at the bottom of the McDonald's bag. When do we ever think too much about it? Shake, shake...salt is always sitting on top of my stove.
This morning, I was pouring salt into my special vintage shaker when I thought about how precious salt was in the ancient world. Salt was not only a flavor enhancer in those days, but was also an important preservative. Back then, salt was a costly and essential commodity. You can bet your last garbanzo bean that Ali who ran the pottage stand wasn't throwing a bunch of salt in the bottom of the burlap bag of falafal he gave to every Esau, Moishe, or Aaron.
In the interim between running out of salt and remembering to buy it, my food was a little bland. I used some bouillon powder, which is salty, but it wasn't quite the same. I was rationing what I had left and the food suffered from it.
Jesus called us to be salt and light in the Sermon on the Mount as follows:
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Matthew 5:13
You are the salt of the earth, but if salt has lost its taste (its strength, its quality), how can its saltiness be restored? It is not good for anything any longer but to be thrown out and trodden underfoot by men.
Wow, strong words! In the ancient world, the world that the earthly Jesus walked in, salt served two basic functions. First, salt kept food from spoiling, a basic way of curing meat in a desert area with high temperatures. In other words, salt kept food pure enough to nourish and sustain. Secondly, salt added flavor and zest to that nourishment. Salt made food tasty. Salt keeps food from tasting bland.
So I'm thinking what I always think about as I consider scripture. So what? Wait, wait, don't get upset! I'm saying, "So what...what does this meant to me?
Jesus is telling me, as he always does, that I am precious. I am to serve in this world as an agent to help keep others pure, to keep them from spoiling in a certain way. I am also here to help make the lives others zesty, flavorful. That's a fun task, isn't it? Don't all we bloggers try to do that, to add a little bit of zest for others to enjoy?
Don't we serve Jesus' purpose when we create beauty at home, cook tasty meals, take pictures, refinish furniture, keep ourselves interesting for our spouses, dress and groom ourselves to avoid being invisible, grow gardens, play music, sing, or write...make life more flavorful for others? To me, all those things help bring zip to the lives of those we love. It's all about joie de vivre.
And if we don't? If we live dry, cheerless, introverted, drab, measly, joyless, humorless, stuck-in-the-mud Christian lives (can that even BE a Christian life?), well, we are fit only to be trampled underfoot.
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